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SAD NEWS!

fter waiting nine long, nerve-racking weeks, my nurse called
Ato say she had very sad news. The results of the biopsy were
back, and unfortunately the blood in my urine was the result of

a minor inflammation in my kidneys. My health was not at risk
whilst I had two kidneys, but if I donated one my doctor could
not be sure whether the inflammation would cause a strain on my
remaining kidney affecting my health in future. For that reason,
she could not give the go ahead and allow me to be a donor. I was
stunned, I had always been confident that I would donate to my
brother, and never imagined that anything could stand in the way

of that. I was so upset and the thought of him on years of dialysis
or even dying was too heart-breaking for me to even think about
at the time. It didn’t make sense to have come this far and now
face such disappointment. Our lives had been on hold for the past
eight months as we waited for the assessment process to finish and
for Tayo to hopefully have his transplant, but now it had all come
to an abrupt end. I struggled as I told him the sad news. I could
hear the disappointment in his voice, and I can’t describe how I felt
for him at that moment. I cried for days and felt such an aching

emptiness at not being able to help my brother. It took weeks to

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